Jake's story

Anonymous

 

Life at home hasn’t been easy. Mum and dad have always fought a lot, and we never seem to have any money. But one day things got much worse.

When I came home from school my dad was waiting. He told me my mum had been sent to prison for drugs and wouldn’t be home for a while. I didn’t understand what he was saying. Why was my mum going to prison? I didn’t even know she took drugs.

I was really angry and confused. I didn’t want to talk to anyone about it because I was embarrassed and ashamed. I couldn’t talk to my dad either – some days he wouldn’t even get out of bed. I stopped talking to my friends at school because I didn’t want them to know what had happened to my family - I just wanted to be normal. I’ve always had a hard time making friends because I have dyspraxia… it was just easier to be on my own.

The longer I kept it in, the angrier I got. I started acting out at school. I’m normally pretty shy and quiet but I started getting really cross and hurting other people. It all felt like too much to handle. In the end, I had a long chat with one of the support workers at school, and I got referred to Addaction, where I started working one-to-one with Ellie. She helped me realise that there were people I could
turn to, who would listen to me and help me the best they could.

I never thought I would be able to trust someone as much as I trust her. Without Ellie I would probably still be dealing with my anger and shame, and I might even have been chucked out of school.

The best part of working with Addaction was being in a group with other young people like me, whose parents have problems with drugs and alcohol too. I didn’t even need to explain what was going on at home, we all just knew we had gone through similar experiences. I didn’t feel as alone, and I made some new friends who understand me.

One year on, my mum is now out of prison and drug-free. We’re working with Addaction as a family. When I came home from school that day, I never thought we would be happy again. We still have a lot of things to work out, but thanks to Addaction we can be a family.

Ellie has helped him spread his wings and get out of his comfort zone. She has shown great integrity and has become an integral part of our family’s emotional well-being. My son has grown to love and trust her for which we will be forever grateful. - Jake’s mum

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